Soul Mates

There are those that believe that a soul mate is the one and only person that they will get with and they will never argue and life will be so sweet and filled with joy and they will live happily ever after. I don't and can't believe in this idyllic fantasy. There are way too many variable for this theory to work. It is just too much to fathom and I will explain why I feel this way.

There have been trillions of souls that have come and gone since that first bite of forbidden fruit. There will probably be trillions more after your bones have turned to dust. Just knowing that alone what are the odds that your perfect mate is even alive in your life time. It is the year 2010 (Where did the time go?) and here we are still looking for that one person that will complete us. That will add to our happiness meter.

I tend to be cynical on this subject. I have had some really great women come into my life but can I really say that they were my soul mate. Probably not. I was with a woman at one time that I felt was my one and only. Yet that relationship did not bare the fruit we would hope to consume. How many soul mates do we get during this spin on the rock? She and I didn't work out and at times I tend to visit those memories. Opening old baggage and examining the contents. I make my list of all the wrongs and rights and I used to front when I was younger that I didn't miss her after it was over (Ah! the misguidings of youth).

But to tie in my intro I ask this question: Who's to say that my soul mate is even alive in my lifetime? How do I know she was not a dirt poor goat herder in Africa during the year 1583? Or that she was married to a fisherman in China during the Ming Dynasty. You are probably thinking "What's this man been smoking? And where can I get me some of that?" All levity aside for the moment. What if she is alive during my life time?

So many variables come into play that can prevent you from meeting. I'm 39 years old (Still looking good. LOL) and live in Cali, but what if my potential soul mate is 84 and laying on her death bed in a convalescent hospital in the state of Maine. Or what if she is just being born in a community hospital down in Florida. Ok those are extreme examples but, lastly what if the love of my life is in my age group, has a wonderful personality, fine as hell but lives in a remote terrorist village in Darkcornerstan in the Middle East and doesn't speak a word of my language. What is the likelihood that we will ever set eyes on each other? Not likely. I guess my point in all of this is to say that if you are sitting around waiting for that one person that is going to like everything about you and be absolutely perfect because they are your soul mate then...good luck with that.

In conclusion, I say that you may only get one soul mate in life and if you find them you are truly blessed. However if you don't find that one elusive person then, there are people out there that will love you and cherish the fact that they have you in their life. They might not be the perfect person but they will be perfect for you and that is what I think a soul mate is. The one or in this case the ones that are right for you. That individual that will give your happiness meter a nice healthy boost.



Just food for thought but be careful it may be fattening



S.L.