"I feel that a woman has every right to express herself sexually and sleep with a multitude just as a man does."
Most men may feel that I'm just saying this to gain favor with the ladies but that is how I genuinely feel, religious beliefs aside. You will see that I'm not the average guy. I have a very open mind when it comes to heterosexuality. If a man sleeps with a lot of different women in the eyes of society he is just taking care of his wild oats and is considered a better man for it later on in life. Now if a woman takes this same outlook she is considered a whore. Is that fair? Sniff, sniff. Does anyone else smell the bullshit besides me?
If a man sleeps with a multitude of women he is just as whorish as that woman in question. No exceptions. I've been whorish in my past but I'm not alone in this club. It's alot of you still paying membership dues in this club. In this age of machines that think and people that don't you would think the answers would be obvious to us all. We need to be more open and honest with our partners about our sexual feelings and our desires. We are still keeping them bottled up and hidden in order to spare feelings. I mean you can't be a complete freak in public. They lock folks up for that but our inhibitions need to be cast to the wind in the privacy of our own homes. Sex is just sex. I have also gotten strange looks from women and men when I have said that.
Some feel that my attitude is too cavilier about sex and relationships but one has little to do with the other. Intimacy and feelings of love are different from sex and sexual fantasy. I feel that a nice healthy dose of fantasy keeps a relationship fresh and you won't be bored. Boredom will kill your relationship real fast. If I'm in a relationship and my woman wants to bring home another woman for me I would be game for a threesome. As long as the women are into me and not diggity dyking. I'm not into seeing women freak each other. It doesn't really do anything for me but that's just my personal taste. Now if they are all over me then that would be different. At the same time if she comes to me later on in the relationship and tells me that she would like another man to join us in bed then I have to be game for that as well. (As long as the dude ain't touching me I'm cool) It is about compromise. Men are very reluctant to talk to thier woman about alot of thier fantasies because of fear of rejection or for being judged. The most powerful aphrodisiac for a man is a woman that does not judge him. Most men would agree with me. I went to a few websites and took a poll from men and the results were similiar. The following are the top ten fantasies (in order from the most prevalent to the least) that most men want:
1. Sexual fantasies about your present partner (Yes ladies your man wants you to be his fantasy)
2. Sex with his woman's best friend (Dangerous as hell but if she's hot and your consenting then have a blast)
3. Having sex with two or more women (No!!! Really )
4. Receiving or giving oral sex (Men love head....no surprise there)
5. Voyeurism or Exhibitionism (Men love to watch others have sex...the porn industry can't be wrong)
6. Having your partner masturbate for you (That's just hot...no for real that's just hot to have your woman masturbate for you)
7. Anal sex (Taboo but men fantasize about this)
8. Bondage and S & M (Personally I got enough ass whoopinz as a kid but whatever gets you going... Now I will tie a woman up in a minute LOL)
9. Sexual Ravaging/ Rape fantasies (Ok a good ravaging will get you a ham sandwich with the crust cut off and some kool aid afterwards)
10. Having sex with a random woman (I guess the unknown factor is hot to those that I polled)
Now I polled women as well and I will put thier fantasies in a separate blog at a later date. I guess the point of this blog is to enlighten and to vent because I tire of the whole "women are to remain pure and not be seen as real people" vibe that uptight society has going on. They are put on a pedestal. Put up so high that thier current man will not even touch them. Men tend to view thier wives and the mother of their children differently than they would another woman they would openly have sex with. Women have the same sexual desires and sex drives as men and men need to wake up to this fact. Women want to be loved and want that slow love making. But, sometimes a woman wants to be treated with a gag in her mouth, spanked, choked, bodily fluids deposited on her, licked, sucked, kissed, fucked and just opened up and fully explored and banged hard. This can't happen if her man has a Madonna complex about his woman. He needs to wake up or else he will never know his womans inner freak. Maybe a threesome once every 3 years will put a spark in your relationship...male or female. Maybe him worshipping your feet or tying you up and gagging you with your kids Spiderman footie pajamas gets him off. You have to be open to all the fantasies. I am not saying that all are to be explored but communication and being able to be free around your lover is refreshing. Compromise is key. Sexuality is just one form of expression and we just have to keep our minds open to the possibilities.
I'm keeping my mind open...step inside after your wipe your feet.
S.L.
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